This post was first put up four months ago but lately it’s been generating lots of traffic, possibly because of a few recent TV reports (one of which used this post for background on their story but forgot to mention..or link where it came from). Anyway because Sologamy is becoming a popular issue, it is worth while to repost for those who missed it the first. The only change to the original 1/29 post is the video at the bottom.
When the Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage, some who objected to the ruling opined that this will lead to legalizing polygamy or even group marriages (where two or more couples marry each other). What they didn’t mention was a new kind of marriage trend which also goes against the more traditional definition of marriage being between one man and one woman. The new trend is called Sologamy, which defines marriage between one man or one woman – otherwise known as marrying one’s self.
Actually, this predated last year’s court decision, but it has picked up steam in recently. According to First Things, the practice began over twenty years ago.
Sologamy is the marriage of someone to one’s own self—the his- or herness of it is not relevant, although it seems to be mostly women who are doing it. Apparently Linda Baker was the first person to marry herself back in December 1993. Others have followed suit, including Sara Sharpe, who wrote about her self-marriage in A Dress, A Ring, Promises to Self. And there’s Nadine Schweigert, a thirty-six-year-old-woman from Fargo, North Dakota, who was interviewed by Anderson Cooper after marrying herself in front of some forty of her closest friends. “I, Nadine,” she said to herself, “promise to enjoy inhabiting my own life and to relish a lifelong love affair with my beautiful self.” Jennifer Hoes is a Dutch woman who did the same thing in 2003. Her same-self marriage was the subject of a recent ten-minute documentary by Aeon Magazine.
I am not a theologian and I could be totally wrong on this, but when it says in Leviticus 19:18, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” I don’t believe Sologamy is what God meant.
Self-marriage is not recognized in the United States or Europe, nor is it a legally binding union…yet. But, who knows, one day, mothers across the country may be happy their child finally settled down with someone with whom they approve. Someone with the same faith and ethnic background.
Sologamy is really about the touchy-feely-type of making self feel nice about one’s self, and people really “do it up.” For example…